Confidence and Self-Esteem: Tips to be a Happy Person

Confidence and Self Esteem


Hey guys! So I know it has been a while, but I just wanted to share one of my latest videos with all of you.  It is a list of tips and tricks that I use to maintain a positive mental space by boosting my confidence and self esteem regularly.  This list contains a combination of tips—some I gathered growing up in my teens, and others that I have just recently learned since graduating college—so that it can be helpful to a wide range of people in different points of their lives.  I hope that you will find it helpful, and be sure to share it with your friends if you do! I am so grateful to all of you who read my blog and I look forward to a year marked with growth and progress.  Without further ado, here is the list!


How to Boost Confidence and Self Esteem

1. Prioritize your hobbies in your free time

Devote time to doing things you love that you also happen to be good at.  They should be things you would do all day everyday, even if you never got paid! Doing these things should be therapeutic, never stressful.   Often times a well managed hobby, when mastered, can become a profitable business down the line.

2.  Challenge Yourself

Set little goals for yourself on the short term, like a week or two weeks. This will train you to be very efficient, and will instill a sense of motivation in you.  The sense of achievement that comes with achieving these mini goals is a very healthy form of reinforcement to have in your life on a regular basis.

3.  Engage in Self Affirmation

Growing up, sometime kids would call me names like “dumb” or “ugly” at school and it would really get to me.  Whenever I was made fun of, I would come home and tell my parents and they would often respond with questions: “Are you dumb? Are you ugly?”  And I would say “no” of course, and they would tell me not to worry about it.  At the time, I felt like that wasn’t helpful but it taught me to be self affirming and to root my self esteem, confidence, and regard for myself in myself and my own opinions.  This was helpful not only on a daily basis, but it also helps to drown out the noise of gossip and chatter.  When I got to college I felt I was a step ahead.

4.  Surround Yourself with Positive People

Growing up, I always went to really small schools.  My senior class in high school had less than 50 people in my grade!  When I got to college, though it was small for a college, I was at times overwhelmed by the class size (1000 people in my graduating class).  I had to learn to be actively selective about who I chose to spend my time with, and I learned to avoid people with negative energies and draw closer to people who bring out the best in me.

5.  Give Back

Learn to devote time to giving back to your community, and investing in the lives of people who cannot give you anything back.  Obama said something insightful about this, “Our values call upon us to care about the lives of people we will never meet.”  This gets to the heart of what I am talking about.  I was luck to have gone to Quaker school all my life, where this idea was instilled in me at a young age.  When I got to high school I even travelled to Brazil to do service there, and I continued this habit through college.  You never know the impact you can have with just a little time, and giving back is one of the most beneficial things you can do to not only boost your self esteem but also feel your happiest!

6. Be Your Own Person

If you want to do something wild and out of the box, do it! If you’ve been thinking of undergoing a form of surgical procedure, of course do your research into someone who can give you the perfected process of whatever you choose. Have your own set of ideas, and follow your vision no matter who fails to see it.  One thing that really helps me is realizing that people don’t think about you as much as you think that they do.  People spend more time thinking about things that concern them, so don’t be stressed about what other people may think!

7. Think Positively About Yourself

If you think positively about yourself, then that is all that should matter.  Do not be swayed by the opinions of others, whether they be positive or negative.  This is because people are fickle, even if they think highly of you one day they can change their minds the next.  So you don’t want your hopes, confidence and self esteem riding on the hopes of other people.

8.  Reward and Appreciate Yourself

I said to set goals for yourself earlier, and if you achieve them then celebrate! I like to treat myself to chocolate covered strawberries.  Whatever motivates you, gift yourself for things you do and are proud of.  Also, don’t let others downplay your achievements because it can be a very damaging to have around you in the long term.

9. Be Your Own Cheerleader

Do whatever you want to cheer yourself on, and promote yourself and what you do!

10. Be Social

Go out and talk to people! Meet people you wouldn’t ordinarily.  Meeting people and having positive interactions with them is really great to boost your self esteem and increase your confidence.

11. Follow Your Passions

Follow your passions! Don’t let people tell you what works and what doesn’t.  I love spending time on my blog because I am very creative, but I am also extremely passionate about the academic and career path that I am on.  I never let anyone tell me that the two don’t mix and neither should you! If it is important to you, you’ll find a way.  If not, you’ll find an excuse.  Don’t let other people be the excuse.

12. Keep Things in Perspective

When I learned to remember and keep in perspective the fact that I was created, by the same God that created the earth and everything in it, I became a much better person.  I learned to appreciate and value myself on a much deeper level, and I also gained a new found respect for others.

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  1. Olivia
    January 15, 2014 / 11:29 am

    I can’t see how people called someone as beautiful as you ugly! I love this post and I know this is already something I need to start working towards myself. Also, I saw your Beyoncé make up tutorial. It looks great!

    • January 17, 2014 / 6:24 pm

      Aww thanks so much, that’s so sweet :)) I really appreciate it and I am glad to hear you liked it! The Beyonce look was so fun to try, be sure to subscribe if you haven’t already :))

  2. uchenna ezeonyeka
    January 18, 2014 / 1:46 pm

    great post.
    love your video and you look beautiful.

    • January 20, 2014 / 12:48 am

      thank you 🙂 i really appreciate it!

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